NOW

Imagine you are at the funeral of yours,

What do you want your beloved family, friends, co-workers say about you?

Achieve victories that are not empty, that are valuable to you.

  • Begin today with the image, picture, or paradigm of the end of your life as your frame of reference or the criterion by which everything else is examined.(P98, Covey)

  • By keeping that end clearly in mind, you can make certain that whatever you do on any particular day does not violate the criteria you have defined as supremely important, and that each day of your life contributes in a meaningful way to the vision you have of your life as a whole.(P98,Covey)

All things are created
twice

  • Mental, first creation
    >blueprint
    >define accomplishments
    >what you want
    >destination determination
    >route planning
    >
    ENVISION
  • Physical creation, second creation
    [Habit 3]

By design or default

  • We are the second creation of our own proactive design(first creation),or
  • We are the second creation of other people's agendas

Leadership vs. Management

  • Leadership- first creation
    >direction, purpose, overall feeling/impression
  • Management-second creation [Habit 3]
    >thinking of control, efficiency, rules
    >immediate satisfaction but high risk of working on WRONG direction!

    "Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things." –Warren Bennis

  • Clarified our values first, and then manage with efficiency, setting and achieving goals!

Write your own script-become your own first creator

  • Self-awareness, imagination, conscience
    empower us
  • Proactive design for your own may be deferred by circumstances and social constructions
  • Tie yourself to limitless potential instead of limiting past
  • Make decisions based on value not emotion!!

Personal mission statement

  • Focus on what you want to be (character) and to do (contributions and achievements) and on the values or principles upon which being and doing are based. (P106, Covey)
  • Define your
    sense of self
    , your unique value
    , so that you can live with change(from circumstance, people), and are stilling working on your ultimate goals

The center of our life

  • The source of our security, guidance, wisdom, power

  • Security represents your sense of worth, your identity, your emotional anchorage, your self-esteem, your basic personal strength or lack of it. (P109,Covey)
  • Guidance means your source of direction in life. (P109, Covey)
  • Wisdom is your perspective on life, your sense of balance, your understanding of how the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other. (P98,Covey)
  • Power is the faculty or capacity to act, the strength and potency to accomplish something. (P98,Covey)

Alternative Centers

  • Spouse centeredness (P111)
  • Family centeredness (P112)
  • Money centeredness (P113)
  • Work centeredness (P114)
  • Possession centeredness (P114)
  • Pleasure centeredness (P114)
  • Friend/Enemy centeredness (P115)
  • Church centeredness (P117)
  • Self-Centeredness
    (P118)

  • All these centers mentioned above limit your personal effective and provide you security, guidance, wisdom , power with condition, thus you become emotional dependant to circumstance and other people

  • Principle-centered
    >stand apart from the emotion of the situation
    >resist other factors acting on you
    >looking at the balance whole, i.e. the social need, the pleasure need…
    >
    make decisions based on value not emotion (Did I mention this already!?)

[Personal notes from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People –Stephen R. Covey]

I appreciate your effort to read to the end!!

I think I went too long for one entry
and you probably got tired by now!
Personal Mission Statement writing will be discussed later
.


I care about:
What is your vision for your future?
What center do you think you belong to?
And go back to the question at our beginning-

What do you want your beloved family, friends, co-workers say about you?
What character, contributions, and achievements of yours would you want them to remember?