Being Concrete
[picture taken in Causeway Bay, HK, 2007]Being concrete takes courage.
You may offense someone by making your point too clear.
Clear ideas are not acceptable to everyone simply because
people have different ideas!
People have their own standpoint toward things!
For that reason,
most people are trying so [too] hard to be “polite” and “nice”
and fix themselves into the norm.
We have to face the reality that
the norm is more complex and diverse than we think of.
Saying things to please everyone = saying nothing
[if it’s not worse].
Don’t be afraid to be yourself and stand out.
Tell exactly what your position is, what’s inside your mind.
The world /the market has too many people that
we shouldn’t bother to please all.
I care about:
Did you try to agree with ideas simply because
you were afraid to offense others?
Do you think you can actually be appreciated by telling your view?
Do you have the courage to expose yourself?
3 Responses to Being Concrete
Was that 8 "50 grams" of gold in the picture?! and his son lol
To me...i will always try to udnerstnad ppl's thoughts b4 expressin mine
As u said, people have different ideas, itz not hard to figure out that itz all about perceptions...every idea should be appreciated, it takes courage to speak.
when i understood ppl's point of view...i'd then tell mine and try to analyze both ideas
thatz my way of expressin my idea and ppl will be more comfortable to listen to u
some ppl just dun respect other's idea and get offended when u comment on their idea becoz even the idea can't support itself..they need others to support their ideas..by that time they wouldn't agree w/ wutever u say and it would turn to be a oral-fight....most of this ppl r actually so calld "megalomania" that they cna't take failures..
we dun need to speak to please everyone but we can't omit the fact that some ppl do get pissed when their ideas r questioned.
...think of a mild way instead of pickin a fight?
I hate oral-fighting w/ ppl aren't even willing to try to listen and sympathize-u dun haf to agree w/ ppl but did u ever try to put ur feet into other's shoes.
& now i m fighting w/ myself, thinking abt wt politeness and communication reli meant to me:
if i m not dare to express myself somehow, i can't expect ppl to be true to me but sincere not necessary =offense.
i guess i care more abt meeting ppl understand and appreciate me of wt my true self is,
than worrying abt scaring ppl away by my boldness.
and as usual, things change, i m not 100% sure whether i will still be this daring when the society is forcing me harder but i'd love to stay w/ being who i m.
that's y, it may not be easy for me to work in companies, i can't reli suck up and i just can't poke at ppl's bac and try to get a promotion that way ...
i understnad ur points..dun worry too much about the "boldness" and "politeness" ,communicationa and politeness themselves do not contradit to each other. ppl can tell if ur bein sincere. and they will response in the same way as u did...thatz also where my point stnads...dun not expose urself too early until u get to know wut kind of ppl ur communicatin with. if they r the kind of ppl i was talkin about...tellin them ur thought is like talkin to the sky...
and sorry i have to compare(again)here...i'm also a person that can't reli suck up and poke at ppl's back lol..makes me feel bad and weird if i do... everyone is different as ur previous article mentioned...dun get assimilated by the society...coz the society is gettin more decayed as it seems to be gettin more developed.....
ur nice, ur cute, u hv ur own mind... just sometimes too straught forward..thatz totally ok tho...and afterall ur still addictive(at least to me) haha
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